When Did the Dating Market Get So Cruel?
Women and men used to actively work together to help find an ideal partner in hopes of spending time together, getting to know each other and ultimately starting a family. But with the rise of dating apps, social media and an imbalance in the sexual market place, the dating market has gotten cruel.
If you didn’t see the tweet from Barstool Sports, check out this link of a girl laughing after a breakup. Her ex sent a heartfelt message to her and she not only responded coldly, but also shared it on Instagram, and then Barstool Sports shared it to their 2 million followers. Classy, but also a good warning to young men everywhere.
Why is the Dating Market So Cruel?
Women have gained a massive advantage with the combination of social media and online dating apps like Tinder. You see, imagine yourself as a Becky, or whatever the kids are calling basic bitches these days. You meet a nice guy at the Apple Festival. You date for 5 months, but then he starts getting fat, or not paying her enough attention. You boot up your Instagram account and take a selfie, that oops, just so happens to show off a little bit more cleavage than normal. What comes next?
Suddenly an avalanche of beta soyboys flood her inbox with comments and likes and her brain with dopamine. Becky has her validation and thanks to all these thirsty dudes, she builds up her self-esteem. Hell, she might even get a DM from some strange swinging dick. Maybe its time for an upgrade.
With all these thirsty dudes out there desperate for a piece of the pie, these girls can easily find another guy. And when you have something (a man in this case) that is easily replaced, you tend to not hold much value in it. Or him.
Dating apps have made finding a guy as easy as ordering a pizza. Now women don’t have it all good here. They really want a relationship first, sex second, and most of these guys on dating apps want sex first, and a relationship second. So, there is a disconnect, but many women get taken by players and believe it or not, women actually do want sex.
Ultimately the rise of fast dating has led to a world with more shallow connections, weaker bonds, and less happy couples. How unhappy are we? Well, 2 out of 3 women, age 18 to 34 use prescription drugs. Not to mention recreational drugs and alcohol.
What Can You Do About the Dating Market?
You need to arm yourself with the tools that will help you navigate the minefields of modern dating. One of the best tools against this is The Red Pill ideology. If you don’t know what that is, start here with these quotes from Rollo Tomassi, the Godfather of the Red Pill. His book, The Rational Male is considered the Red Pill Bible.
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