Men Are the Disposable Sex
“Men are the disposable sex, women, the preserved sex. Men would simply die in favor of a superior aggressor, but women would be reserved for breeding. So it served a feminine imperative to evolve an ability to cut former emotional ties more readily.”
Men, at some point in your life, a woman has made you feel disposable. It happens to the best of us. If you learn from it, this will upset you less and less as you get older.
It can be upsetting to invest time and energy and then the girl just ghosts you like you meant nothing. Meanwhile she moves on to someone else. The worst part about getting ghosted is that some guys will hold out hope. They’ll wait for her to come back while she’s tongue jousting another dude. You gotta learn to let go, man.
This is where the abundance mentality comes in. A rational response to women’s ghosting technique. You see, in those early days, the relationship doesn’t really mean anything yet. It can fall apart on a whim. She might see an old flame and then forget all about you. Yet, most guys tend to get heavily invested early on. This is because it can be more difficult for a guy to meet a girl. A girl simply needs to be thin and available. Sometimes neither of those things.
But when you have more options, you appear less desperate. You don’t care about the occasional girl ghosting you. I remember taking this busty, blonde school teacher up to my bachelor pad. We made out for a little bit and I was into her. But I knew right away as we made out that it was over. Can’t say why, but I wasn’t feeling “the spark” as women like to say.
We had gone on like 2 kinda dates but it just wasn’t clicking. So she ghosted me and I moved on to better things. Actually, pretty sure I just played video games with my friend the next couple weekends but I wasn’t complaining. The point is, I knew something better would come along, and this girl was a little high mileage anyway. Today I don’t even remember her name so what difference does it make?
A couple months later though, I ended up meeting this hot little brunette coed. She was much younger and more fun. And she had an ass that would stop you dead in your tracks and eyes that could light up the room. And she fuckin knew it. But that’s a story for another day.
What can you do about this?
Work on fixing yourself. Rollo Tomassi likes to say “Be the prize.” This is the mentality you need to adopt. But it’s not enough to simply think this. You must become it. This may mean less time on Xbox Live and more time at the Gym. Get yourself in shape and you can hook a girl before you open your mouth.
Being smooth and confident are much easier when she’s already favorably judged you by your cover. Take care of basic things like your hygiene, get a solid haircut every couple weeks. Update your wardrobe with clothes that fit you, and don’t make you look like a child. Lose the jerseys. They’re juvenile.
And keep putting yourself out there. You don’t have to invest so much every time you like a girl. Most of you guys build up these girls to impossible ideals, lust after them for weeks while you build up the courage and then get too nervous to close the deal. Either make your move or don’t. You won’t see girls pondering forever on whether they should ghost you or not. Be bold. Make a move.
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